When we found out that our little Son-shine Theo had died we were visited by a bereavement midwife. Family and friends supported us in the best way they could but the reality was and still is nobody would ever understand how we were feeling. Every individual grieves in their own way.

The lack of advice on where to turn didn't help us and in our very early days of grief there was no way we could have gone looking for it.

We would have like to have attended a support group if we knew of any local to us but on the other hand, we would have wanted to help others first. So we decided to simply help and support each other. We also felt very unsupported by the professionals and if any support was given by others outside of the hospital it was aimed predominantly at us as Theo's parents. We knew that his Nanny and Aunty were also grieving and yet no support was offered to them, yet we knew how desperately this was needed. Baby and infant loss affects the whole family. The giref and feeling of loss impacts each person in a completely different way.

Our pain and devastation continues day after day. Not a day goes by where we don’t cry and feel very lost. In our experience you find as the weeks and months pass, less and less people ask if you are okay, ask if you need anything, and very often forget to even ask about our son. No parent wants their child forgotten.

We know how it felt not to have the support that we so desperately needed. Someone to talk to who had even just a little understanding. Through our journey we want to support other people whether it be Parents, Grandparents, Siblings, Aunts and Uncles who simply need someone to talk to or someone who will listen and have some understanding of the pain that they are enduring.

Should you require any support or just someone to talk to please contact us by email in the first instance or via our social media platforms.

You are not alone - together we are united.